Sunday’s Wisdom #53: Break the Cycle of Cruelty

“These things have happened, Zygella, they are facts. You just want cruelty to beget cruelty. You’re not superior to people who were cruel to you. You’re just a whole bunch of new cruel people. A whole bunch of new cruel people, being cruel to some other people, who’ll end up being cruel to you. The only way anyone can live in peace is if they’re prepared to forgive. Why don’t you break the cycle?”
– The Doctor, Doctor Who
Season 9, Episode 8, “The Zygon Invasion, Pt. 2”

This quote from Doctor Who addresses a truth both near and dear to my heart: when we become like the monsters who have tormented us, all we have accomplished is to become just like them. We hold no moral high ground when we do this.

As the Doctor is trying to convince a renegade, warmongering alien to convert to the path of peace, she brings up what has been done to her and her people. No details, mind you, just statements of how they’ve been treated like cattle and it’s not fair. Yes, they have felt the pain of cruelty, but they, themselves, have chosen to respond by piling high the corpses of innocent men, women, and children. They were on the receiving end, and now they’re on the giving end of cruelty.

The past cannot be changed, it is immutable. No matter what we do, what’s done is done and cannot by undone. To take the pain that has been inflicted upon us, and inflict it on others, that just perpetuates the cycle we could have broken. We don’t surpass the people we hurt us, we just become like them. And, much more often than not, we hurt people who were completely blameless for our pain, and so the poison of cruelty spreads like a disease, an epidemic, often returning straight back to us.

Peace will not be found in standing tall and proud atop a mountain of bloody corpses and moaning victims. It will only be found in letting go of our pain. It’s not an easy thing, to forgive the people who hurt us. That holds true on an individual level, and a collective one. But if we do, we can find peace within, and this is the foundation for peace between parties who were formerly at war. If we don’t… well, then we are trapped within our own darkness.

This is why we hold our anger in check, and leave it to the law to punish criminals. This is why we don’t seek vengeance ourselves, but leave justice in the hands of others. This is why we keep our demons locked up tight, and never take joy in the pains of others.

To replace cruelty with love, anger with forgiveness, and pain with healing.

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4 Responses to Sunday’s Wisdom #53: Break the Cycle of Cruelty

  1. Pingback: Sunday’s Wisdom #165: To Know, To Love, To Help. Or: Doctor Who Challenge Day 9: Favorite Companion Quote | Merlin's Musings

  2. ospreyshire says:

    I wish it was that easy. I’ve been bullied for a lot of my life and when I tried defending myself, I would be treated like the bad guy. It’s a shame how people get away with doing bad things or are exalted for them. There are times where I wonder “Do I have to be a jerk to get what I want in life?” since I see so many people being successful through dubious means.

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    • Merlin says:

      About the only “easy” thing is talking about it, like I have. While my life has not been perfect, I am aware that it has been incredibly easy and blessed compared to so many others. I often fear that might make my words more hollow than they are meant to be, because of just how easy it is to talk about forgiveness when I’ve had so little need to practice it, and even then I’ve not done as well at it as I have wanted. But there are those I look up to, who have been able to forgive despite being tremendously wronged and badly hurt, and they give me hope that the rest of us can do the same.

      As for successful jerks… eh, they have what they have, and everything they get through those dubious means is something which can be lost in an instant. One thing I *can* speak about is not having the things I want. In truth, I’ve failed at most everything in my life, and I feel that hurt quite keenly every so often. Yet, I am personally much more comfortable with my failures than I would be if I succeeded in the wrong way, ya know?

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      • ospreyshire says:

        That’s true about talking about it. I appreciate your honesty on the matter when you said that you didn’t have to forgive as much. I’m not sure when it comes to people who have seriously wronged me. People haven’t forgiven me for some things I’ve done, so why should I do the same for them or other ones. It’s one thing I didn’t get.

        Yeah. It’s just frustrating. I feel like I’ve failed a lot, too. I do have some successes, but I feel as though they can be minuscule.

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